"Fifty Shades of Grey" Wins Box Office Again: We Ask, Do Women Want Sexual Submission?
By GTVW Staff
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With a worldwide total of $410.6 million, “Fifty Shades of Grey” is the top grossing U.S. film for a second, straight weekend. Tantalized by explicit depictions of female sexual submission, American women flocked to the film’s debut, and made up 68 percent of theater audiences. Which begs the question, do women really want to be dominated in the bedroom? Yes and no, says Joanne Harvie, a great commentator.
“We talk to real women, about their real sexual desires, every day,” said Harvie. “Many of men are enticed by the fantasy of their partners taking control, but they aren’t interested in hardcore sadomasochism. Like most fictional movies, “Fifty Shades of Grey” pushes the boundaries of reality. So, a woman may enjoy furry handcuffs and a firm spanking, but she might not want to be chained to a bedpost and beaten with a whip.
Unlocking Female Sexual Submission
Harvie went onto to elaborate, “Women have romanticized the fantasy of sexual submission since before ‘Gone with the Wind.’ The idea of relinquishing control to a partner can be a powerful aphrodisiac for many. It can tap into an individual’s desire to feel wanted and needed. Today, we all have busy lives with work and kids. And some women are craving this type of affirmation from their partners. When someone ties you to a bed, it screams I want you. I need you. I have to have you now!”
This concept can be confusing for men, Harvie admits. “There may be a woman who saw ‘Fifty Shades of Grey,’ and now her lover wants to know if he should be more like Christian Grey. It is a fine line, but a woman can help communicate her comfort level, so that her sexual boundaries are respected. Respecting limits is paramount.”
Giving Him Control, While Setting Limits
“If a woman wants her lover to be more commanding, she can give him a sexy gift that illustrates her desire,” Harvie says. “For example, if she wants him to take charge in the bedroom, she could give him a blindfold or handcuffs with a playful note that indicates her level of comfort. If it says, ‘Tease me until I scream,’ that suggests more foreplay. If it says, ‘I’ve been naughty, spank me,’ he’ll know she wants a spanking. With all role playing, setting and respecting safe words are extremely important. They communicate when limits have been reached, and play needs to stop.”
Harvie adds, “Also know that some women aren’t interested in submission at all, and that’s fine. The trick is to find your passion and share it with your partner respectfully.
