sexual submission
"Fifty Shades of Grey" Wins Box Office Again: We Ask, Do Women Want Sexual Submission?
By GTVW Staff
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With a worldwide total of $410.6 million, “Fifty Shades of Grey” is the top grossing U.S. film for a second, straight weekend. Tantalized by explicit depictions of female sexual submission, American women flocked to the film’s debut, and made up 68 percent of theater audiences. Which begs the question, do women really want to be dominated in the bedroom? Yes and no, says Joanne Harvie, a great commentator.
“We talk to real women, about their real sexual desires, every day,” said Harvie. “Many of men are enticed by the fantasy of their partners taking control, but they aren’t interested in hardcore sadomasochism. Like most fictional movies, “Fifty Shades of Grey” pushes the boundaries of reality. So, a woman may enjoy furry handcuffs and a firm spanking, but she might not want to be chained to a bedpost and beaten with a whip.
Unlocking Female Sexual Submission
Harvie went onto to elaborate, “Women have romanticized the fantasy of sexual submission since before ‘Gone with the Wind.’ The idea of relinquishing control to a partner can be a powerful aphrodisiac for many. It can tap into an individual’s desire to feel wanted and needed. Today, we all have busy lives with work and kids. And some women are craving this type of affirmation from their partners. When someone ties you to a bed, it screams I want you. I need you. I have to have you now!”
This concept can be confusing for men, Harvie admits. “There may be a woman who saw ‘Fifty Shades of Grey,’ and now her lover wants to know if he should be more like Christian Grey. It is a fine line, but a woman can help communicate her comfort level, so that her sexual boundaries are respected. Respecting limits is paramount.”
Giving Him Control, While Setting Limits
“If a woman wants her lover to be more commanding, she can give him a sexy gift that illustrates her desire,” Harvie says. “For example, if she wants him to take charge in the bedroom, she could give him a blindfold or handcuffs with a playful note that indicates her level of comfort. If it says, ‘Tease me until I scream,’ that suggests more foreplay. If it says, ‘I’ve been naughty, spank me,’ he’ll know she wants a spanking. With all role playing, setting and respecting safe words are extremely important. They communicate when limits have been reached, and play needs to stop.”
Harvie adds, “Also know that some women aren’t interested in submission at all, and that’s fine. The trick is to find your passion and share it with your partner respectfully.
Roman Polanski surprises with Venus in Fur
By Jenny Alvarez
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From the writer-director Thomas (Mathieu Amalric) complains that no actress he’s seen has what it takes to play the lead female character: a woman who enters into an agreement with her male counterpart to dominate him as her slave. Thomas is about to leave the theater when actress Vanda (Emmanuelle Seigner) bursts in, a whirlwind of erratic – and, it turns out, erotic – energy. At first she seems to embody everything Thomas has been lamenting. She is pushy, foul-mouthed, desperate and ill-prepared – or so it seems. Venus in Fur has an unique script that involves an extended “audition” and the main element are psycho-sexual mind games.The two main characters are very deep and intense in their roles especially in some elements such as claustrophobia, erotic tension, role games and sexual submission. Venus symbolizes the destabilizing nature of sexual desire. For those ones who are interested in a dominant-submissive historical love story are in fact secretly pining for such a relationship in their own lives. This movie is highly recommended if you love strange stories of Roman Polanski.
